I’ve never been a big “Desperate Housewives “ fan. I’m usually home Sunday nights so I watched it from time to time. Currently it’s in its 8th and mercifully last season. I had long ago grown weary of of the four women all of whom have been proven to be pretty bad mothers and their criminal misuse of the great Vanessa Williams regulating her to advising them on dating and wardrobe like a junior high buddy.
But home with a terrible sinus infection last week I was bed looking for stuff on Hulu to past the time and found the penultimate episode of DH entitled “With So Little to Be Sure Of”
I won’t bore you with extraneous details but Susan DelFino’s daughter Julie once thought to be the most smart, sensible, responsible person in the DelFino household has come home from college having stupidly allowed herself to get pregnant. She had made the decision to place to the child for adoption. Susan husband Mike was killed a few episodes ago and Susan found a box he had been hiding. She discovered that 8 years earlier Mike had discovered he had a older sister so severely austic she couldn’t speak. Mike’s mother put her in a home and never spoke of her. Mike only discovered this upon his mother’s death, in a letter she made him promise he would never tell anyone about this. Mike created an account sent money every month and visited every Monday “He said he was at softball practice” really? Every Monday for 8 years? Year round softball and you never noticed that he never actually had a game? Susan read the letter aloud to a pregnant Julie “’Caring for your sister was just too inconvenient’” she recites “Can you imagine being so callous you would give your baby away simply because its inconvenient?” Julie began crying ”I’ve been telling myself I’m giving her away because its best for her but the truth is having a baby just inconvenient.” Needless to say Julie has a change of heart and decides to keep the baby.
Inconvenient? Seriously? I heart anti-choice say this all the time. Once a woman talked about her mother getting pregnant at 15 “but choose my life over her convenience”. The massive undertaking of caring for a child til adulthood, the monumental cost, both financially, spiritually, and psychologically is ‘inconvenient’? Google “I hate being a mom” and you’ll get 9.3 MILLION results.
http://www.justrage.com/I_Hate/i-hate-being-a-fucking-mother-and-i-dont-care-if-you-call-me-a-bitch/
“My kids are of toddler and preschool age. They fight, scream and demand all the time. I am so unhappy. Noone tells you how awful it is to be a mother. noone! Yes there are little sweet things that happen from time to time but over all it's terrible. I am so exhausted that I can't sleep at night. My nerves are shot from the kids constant yelling, fighting, and having to explain, soothe, or whatevery 24/7. I am tired! The amount of work that it takes to be a Mom and a housewife is inhuman. I never have a moment to just relax because when I am I am thinking about what work has to be done. It's fucked up. Yes I love my kids but I hate mothering them.”
Having to take a detour due to an accident and getting to work an hour late is an inconvenience. Your flight being cancelled and having to spend the night at the airport is inconvenient. Bring a child into the world is a crushing responsibility and done improperly can have result in a tragedy for many lives. Breaking down in tears because you’ve really the best years of your life are over and you’ve royally fucked EVERYTHING up isn’t something that can be described as “inconvenient”.
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| If you'll excuse me I've ruined my life I'm going hop into a warm tub and pop open a vein. |
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